Wednesday, February 28

Taxis

It has been a long time since I took taxis home. Since it costs about US$100 for me to go home by taxi from the office, and since clients bear this cost, I feel bad about it and try as much as possible to take at least the last train home.

But this past week I have been taking taxis home again and whilst in the cab, I had this little trip down memory lane. The last time when I took taxis frequently was when M&A (mergers and acquisition) activity in Japan was at a feverish pitch, about year 2000. Some of my thoughts as I sat in the cab:

  • taxi drivers are still so scary. They drive so fast. Even on Shuto expressway.
  • Shuto expressway is scary. It's 2 narrow lanes. And it's above ground. And, the barriers on the side do not look solid enough to hold cars back when they crash through it. (Take last week where a truck crashed through the barrier and by stroke of luck, there happened to be some sort of pillar that prevented the truck from going all the way down, but the poor driver was thrown out of the cab, hurtled down and died.)
  • there are too many trucks, esp. at that time of the night/morning, going way too fast on this narrow expressway.
  • my office used to be in Otemachi and I used to stay in Jiyugaoka. That stretch of Shuto is curvy all the way with sharp bends. Curve right, curve left. Never straight. And the taxi drivers love this challenge, they step up to it by stepping on the accelerator.
  • I have been told that that stretch is fabled and loved by race car drivers. So much so that when you play one of those driving games on Playstation, it covers that stretch. Exactly. Right down to the background scenery.
  • I had 1 experience with a taxi driver once on that stretch that for the first time in my life, really made me fearful for my life.
  • since that experience, I told all taxi drivers "No Shuto. Local roads please.". They all complied except for 1 taxi driver who insisted that we take the Shuto. He thought it was for cost reason and said he would bear the highway toll!!! My Japanese then was so bad that I could not even protest. So I just held on to my seat and did a little prayer.
  • taxi drivers have good memories. I have had taxi drivers saying to me as soon as I get in and have not yet uttered a word, the location of my house. They actually remembered my face!

And for those of you who think Tokyo is big? My office changed locations. Totally different location as in different district altogether. Something like moving from Raffles Place to Orchard Road (in Singapore) and East End to West End (in London). Soon after the move, I hopped into a cab 1 night. The taxi driver turned around, took a look at me and said "Why are you here? Don't you work at XXX building in Otemachi?"

Men!

Or maybe, just my husband.

I have been keeping long hours at work of late (Japanese financial year end is March 31 and yes, M&A activity is indeed on a steep increase!). Monday night was no exception. I was thinking I probably would have to go home for dinner (at 3am) and work through the night, take a shower and get back to the office.

So I called Tomo from the office.

Me : I will have to work from home the whole night. Can you ask your mum if she can please stay over to help look after the kids [the baby does not sleep through the night yet].

Tomo : No need for that. I can do it.

Me: Are you sure? I mean I *really* have to work through the night.

Tomo : No problem. I can manage and still go to work the next day.

I arrive home at 3am and Taiga sees me and wants to be held. I hold him for a while and the next thing I know, Tomo has gone to his bed and was sleeping! Does not wake up despite my pokes!!!

Thursday, February 22

The Things I DON'T Do for my Kids

Waving

Kai loves waving. Absolutely loves it. To anyone. To train drivers (one even honked the train after waving back!), to train conductors, to security guards, policemen. Anyone in uniform. Even to a passing ambulance (which was not in an emergency) and it was nice for all 3 men sitting in front to wave back. He does not just wave. He waves until they out of his sight.

Which is all fine. UNTIL, he insists that I wave along with him. Heck, he is a kid and can get away with it. Me? I will look like an idiot. So I don't. Which Kai totally cannot understand. In between his waves and smiles as he walks along and turns back, he would urge me to wave and then shoots me the puzzled "Why are you so unfriendly?" looks.

Warning Other People

And the other day we were standing outside the restaurant waiting for Tomo/Taiga to come out when Kai notices a group of women standing in the middle of the car park entrance saying their goodbyes (as many Japanese women are wont to do, which I don't understand). Kai got all concerned and in an urgent tone, started shouting out to them "kuruma kuru da yoou" (car is coming). There was no car coming but my boy has been well-trained that one should never stand in the middle of a road. The women were too busy chatting to pay any attention to him. After a couple more tries, Kai turned around to me and says, Mummy, tell them that car is coming. I did not. How could I? Kai was totally puzzled at this ineffective mummy of his.

Parenting is hard.

Monday, February 19

It's still me

Same blog, different look. Have to give each of my multiple personalities some time to come through! ;-)

Well, I am a Gemini after all!

Thursday, February 15

Tarot Card


You are The Empress


Beauty, happiness, pleasure, success, luxury, dissipation.


The Empress is associated with Venus, the feminine planet, so it represents,
beauty, charm, pleasure, luxury, and delight. You may be good at home
decorating, art or anything to do with making things beautiful.


The Empress is a creator, be it creation of life, of romance, of art or business. While the Magician is the primal spark, the idea made real, and the High Priestess is the one who gives the idea a form, the Empress is the womb where it gestates and grows till it is ready to be born. This is why her symbol is Venus, goddess of beautiful things as well as love. Even so, the Empress is more Demeter, goddess of abundance, then sensual Venus. She is the giver of Earthly gifts, yet at the same time, she can, in anger withhold, as Demeter did when her daughter, Persephone, was kidnapped. In fury and grief, she kept the Earth barren till her child was returned to her.


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Wednesday, February 14

Valentine's Day


A day when the girls give the guys chocolates in Japan!

And in Japan, the gift giving is not just between lovers but is also a common practice within companies. So in the office where the girls are usually in the secretarial jobs and the guys are in the executive jobs, it has pretty much translated into a gift-giving practice of a junior to her superiors.

Now, where does that leave me as a female in a Japanese company working in a "superior" position? It is strange for females to gives chocos to other females, but I am sort of a boss ....

It means that I get fewer chocos than the guys, but I still get chocos. Can't complain! Below is a pic of some of the chocos I received today. OK, ok, they are all of the chocos I received today!


Tuesday, February 13

A Day Out At Gotemba


This past Monday was a public holiday. And it was a beautiful sunny day. So on the spur of the moment, we decided to hit the roads and drive to Gotemba Premium Outlets. Right next to Mt. Fuji. The goal was not so much to shop, but to take a drive out to the "countryside", let Kai run about and just browse the shops a bit.



We have been there a few times and although it claims to be a factory outlet, it has not been that much cheaper in my past visits. The outlet prices at Coach/Gucci/Ferragamo are actually higher or the same as the regular shop prices in Singapore. So I was not expecting to buy much at all. Maybe at best just a pair of sneakers as I just discovered last week that there was a good reason why I was not feeling any bounce in my more than 3-year old pair - the rubber sole has worn out and there was actually a hole!

The drive out was nice. But it was a pretty weird driving experience. We have been on highways many times, including this highway that brought us to the outlet. Usually pretty smooth. However on this day, there were just so many crazy drivers that I was ansty. There were quite a few cars that whizzed down the right-lane. Tomo thinks they were going at more than 200km/hour. They did not slow down when cars got in their way, which caused those cars to quickly and dangerously swerve into the next lane. And the big trucks too. Trundling along very quickly on the express lane and often changing lanes. It all felt very unsettling. But the scenery was beautiful. So nice to get out of Tokyo.

Like most places in Japan, there was a long Q for the car park. Pre-kids, that would have gotten me annoyed. But now with kids in the car, I actually don't mind car park Qs that much as it means that we have some extra quiet time, as the kids are usually sleeping at the back. About the only time they sleep actually.

Unexpectedly, I bought quite a few things. I got a pair of Timberland sneakers for US$35. They usually retail at US$160. The colour I liked, they had the very last pair in my size. Very pleased with this as if I had seen this pair of shoes at a regular price at a regular Timberland shop, I would have been lusting after it! Was not looking to buy any casual winter overcoat but Land's End had a very nice coat going for US$45, and it usually sells for US$200. Again, the very last one in my size. Really happy with the coat because I got it so cheap, I don't care if Kai/Taiga get it all dirty. (And that's the reason why I don't bother walking in to Gucci/Ferragamo anymore, although I could not resist a quick peek at MaxMara). Went home feeling very pleased with the purchases and the money I saved! ;-)

And incidentally, the shoes were 25cm and my coat, an XL! I actually thought the coat might me a bit small and asked the lady if they had a bigger size for me to check it out. That's when I was told that's an XL and they don't get any bigger!! For those of you who know me, you know I am not that huge! But can't complain, my non-petite size gets me good deals at sales here in Japan (in the foreign-brand shops). At size 25, I can hardly buy shoes at the regular Japanese shops. They pretty much stop at size 22. As for those nice strappy, elegant Japanese shoes, I think they all stop at size 18. LOL! They only have granny shoes, if at all, for my size 25. As for clothes, I am again limited to the foreign brands. For the Japanese brands, the shoulder part is always too tight, the sleeves too short and the pants - they won't go past my calves! Again, I am not huge, I am about 162.5 cm and 60kg. But I guess that's huge in Japan where the women eat little and for my height, weigh about 50kg.

The shops closed at 7pm which was way too soon. At about 6pm, as the sun was setting, I got this lovely shot of Mt. Fuji.


After leaving the outlets, we went to the nearby Royal Host for dinner. Of all the family restaurants, I like this the best. We were just about to turn into the expressway to go back home after dinner when Tomo commented that the road we were on was the national road (Route XXX) that goes right by our house. Feeling adventurous, wanting to check out the local scene and to feed my curiousity about the places that this national road passes (this curiousity has been there for abt 5 years already as we normally travel only the same stretch around Tokyo but know that it goes all the way out to other parts of Japan), we decided to go home via the local roads instead of the highway. The first 15 mins was th most difficult part. First it was mountain roads and we were afraid that Kai would throw up, as he has shown motion sickness in the past. Thank god he fell asleep so no worries on that. Then after the mountain roads, we hit this stretch where it was 1 lane for each direction. The roads were curvy and narrow, there were no road separators between the different directions and the trucks travelling the other direction were going so FAST! One mistake in judgment on their part and our car would be thrown off the road. That was really scary and I vowed then never to take this road again. But, as it turned out, that stretch lasted only a couple of minutes and after that, the roads got back to normal. It was interesting to see that this part of Japan had its share of Kentucky Fried Chicken, McDs etc, but also other interesting local restaurants. There was a little road works going on so we detoured into a local residential estate and they had some nice houses there. Not as rural as I thought it would all be! It took us 1 hour more than the highway to get back home but we learnt 1/2way through that there was a long jam on the highway, so who knows, we could well have been faster on the local roads. Not to mention that we saved US$21 for the highway toll!

It was a pleasant day and I am sure we would be going back again someday.

Suicides in Japan

Suicides are rather common in Japan. Tomo, who travels a lot on the trains around the Kanto area almost daily, noticed that there were a lot more suicides over this past December/January and it has since slowed down a bit.

Why do I connect train travel with suicides? Because in Japan, that is a common way to go. I think that is very selfish and inconsiderate because each suicide on the train tracks affects thousands of commuters, even when not during the peak travel hours. The way Japan is connected, the trains are usually the fastest (and cheapest) mode of transportation. The affected travellers may not be able to easily change the mode of transportation. What if the affected traveller is going to an important exam? Or the affected traveller is going on to Narita/Haneda and may miss the flight? Or the affected traveller is rushing to the hospital to meet a dying family member for the last time? A train delay by about an hour (I think that is how long the train companies take to clean up the site and resume services) could totally inconvenience if not change someone's life.

Last week, a policeman tried to stop a 39-year old woman from committing suicide on the train tracks. The train neared, and he desperately tried to push her into one of the spaces below the platform to avoid the oncoming train (most of the platforms here have it for that very purpose). She resisted, the train hit them. He was in a coma for the past week and it was in today's papers that he died yesterday. She survived with injuries.

How tragic for him and his family.

More here :http://mdn.mainichi-msn.co.jp/national/news/20070212p2a00m0na016000c.html